September 2008 Archives

You'll get married when you're 32, thinking "Thank goodness I waited for Mr. Right and I can't believe I worried so much!"

You'll never get divorced and will be extremely happy.

You'll be tempted to get married to the wrong person earlier, but you're too smart to give yourself to someone who's not good to you.

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Ghandi said, "it doesn't matter how fast you're driving if you're going the wrong way." Thank goodness you've waited -- the more you know about what really makes you happy, the less likely you are to get a divorce.

To find love, actively shed the baggage in your life; that builds confidence, which is attractive. Then get out there & have at least one date a week. Don't settle!!

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You should cut your losses when what you're doing -- such as being patient and hoping someone else will change -- just isn't working. Think about trends & make a diary of the issue, scaled from 1 to 10.

Is it really getting better?

If nothing's changed for 2-3 months, you either haven't gotten the person to try, or he/she has simply failed.

Tell them about this card and how it made you think about what you want from life & how you want to be loved by friends & family. Ask if you can tell them about this.

If they're not interested, the problem isn't you and maybe feeling close to such a person is noth healthy.

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Start by making a list of all the things you could do. Then sort through the pros & cons. This is too big a decision to go with your gut!

Need some help being creative? Think about what's pleased you in the past and the life choices of people who have inspired you.

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Pledge to do something to make it up to her and acknowledge it with an apology & a promise to change. This transforms you into a new person. You are free to keep disliking the old you but don't let it become an obsession. Focus on loving the new you and making improvements to your life.

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Actually, I don't believe that everyone is different. :)

Figuring out who you are is too hard a problem for simple intuitive thinking.

Make a big list of things you like and don't like.

Then go through the list looking for trends. Then brainstorm about taking it to the next level.

Like art? Try taking or teaching a class! Like helping others? Join a volunteer group or start one! You can do it! :)

Will trying to change the world bring me love or just frustration?

I've been through a lot of heartache and figured out some of life's mysteries.

Having a garden is just an excuse to share some of what I've learned!

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I wanted to procrastinate on real work.

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Every time you interact with someone, you have an opportunity to change their life.

Try complimenting the bus driver or asking a friend (who's too shy to ask) if they need help.

It's normal to have sad thoughts invade our quiet time. To get over it and move on:

- distract yourself by calling a friend or seeing a movie

- resolve the issue intellectually as to who's at fault and what to do

- use this intellectual resolution to push aside your emotional state when it's not helping.

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Having a messed up life - such as alcoholism - can be strangely attractive beacuse it's a great excuse to behave childishly and selfishly and not have to face life, and nobody expects anything different.

The world is definitely not against you. It's just that when you're upset it's hard to see how much power you have. Make a list of changes you want & share it with a friend.

Make a list of things that genuinely make you happy, and don't overidealize, and don't add things that don't work. If you feel that you're settling for now but hope the future will be better, you're probably wrong. People don't usually change and a short-term sacrifice has a way of becoming forever.

It's totally normal to find it hard to leave a bad relationship.

The same heart that misled you to fall in love is now misleading you to think that you're never going to find love again & can't possibly survive on your own.

Write a goodbye note today & get a friend to help!

A pear is proof that a tree has hope.

The pear tree creates these yummy treats and hopes that the world will grant it children.

(Also art is any kind of beauty made on purpose.

Hate comes from shame.

We hate most in others what we dislike in ourselves.

Many peolpe have combative friends & family and simply know no other way to behave.

Although it is possible to befriend & help & encourage people with vicious drama, it may backfire & hurt you a lot.

These days I prefer to help people who are good back to me.

When people say "just wait, it will come," they don't mean be inactive.

You have to get out there -- friends, online, join a club, have the courage to say hi to people.

What they mean is, if you have self-confidence & don't worry all the time, that's attractive. Build self-confidence by loving yourself & having patience.

What are you afraid of?

No, seriously, make a list of the bad things that might happen & your contingency plan for what you might do, and how much it would matter.

I'll bet you'll find you

Fear is always fear of the unknown.

Are you someone who falls in love & starts to forgive the flaws & behaviors in your partner so completely that when it turns out they're not good to you, it's a surprise?

Remove the unknown by expecting the best from your partner!

A lot of irritability is some unhappiness in your own life that you're projecting, pretending it has some other cause. When you start to get mad, think, "How much would I pay to get rid of that annoyance?"

$50? $5? You'll soon see that the "irritant" really isn't causing you much grief.

Try to fix the real cause.

You have to seek it out.

In a sense, modern life has already given you some great stuff -- modern dentistry, freedom & democracy, cars, lots of stores & clean water.

The rest you have to do.

Make a list of the change you want in your life & go to it! <3 <3

One of the hardest things about life is knowing when you're mature or when you still have life lessons to learn. Is your life stable and are you happy & fulfilled?

If not, let the pregnancy wait and put that energy into preparing a good home for a child.

Everyone is shy sometimes.

It's important not to feel pressured to jump right into crowds if you don't want to.

But when you do want to, smile and ask questions, make eye contact. You can do it! :)

You should never allow a feeling from your heart to lead you astray into something your head knows just doesn't work.

Be brave and leave.

You will find a new partner in time! :) <3

*HUGS*

Unfortunately, being in love is intoxicating, and people can become addicted to the feeling even when their head tells them it's not a good relationship.

Your heart is misleading you. You will find love again, but first you must be brave and leave your partner.

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