November 2008 Archives

I refuse to get depressed.

There's always a road to success with enough determination.

What's your big dream & how are you going to get there?

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You're successful if what you are doing makes you happy and makes a "positive impact on others", which is a good definition of art. The trick is to know yourself well & without illusions & delusions, so you can assess your happiness well & that's your direction. You're doing fine!

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Make a list of reasons to lose weight on a small card & carry it in your pocket or wallet.

Weigh yourself every day, and chart it. Be creative & find healthy alternative foods and don't buy anything but that.

Eat at home only & never go out.

Believe in yourself and distract yourself in healthy ways if you feel down & want to binge eat.

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Make a list of all the projects, jobs, and hobbies you've had in your life & note which really inspired you. See any trends?

Develop some ideas & take them to other people who've made various career choices. Be creative -- can you transform your current job or turn your dream job into reality?

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Kids won't pick on you if it's no fun & it's not making you sad. You can say "Boy, you must have a weak ego if you need to pick on people!" or just don't give them any sign.

Be strong -- people who seem to have confidence are usually making part or all of it up.

You make it up too & they won't be able to tell.

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I had an idea and I turned it into a project and I did it.

What ideas do you have and how can you get going on them?

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You can tell if you are reaching out to them about the same that they are reaching out to you.

If you're overdoing it, try to spread your enthusiasm across more friends or take up a hobby.

If you have "friends" who simply aren't very giving, don't let that get to your self-image. You're doing just fine, it's just some people aren't very giving. Let those go.

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A future rock star who will date Lindsay Lohan and star in a B-grade film, go into rehab but survive and dedicate the rest of life to charity work & save lives in Africa.

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Within 2 months, but you have to make it happen. Make a list of the relationships & responsibilities & habits in your life and what's genuinely making you happy.

No "love is blind" idealism please or misplaced sense of obligation when you aren't getting something back. Back way from the bad. You can do it!

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Think, "does it really make me happy?" and "am I doing my fair share of giving in the family?", and that will help you decide. If you think it's the right thing but too draining, look for ways to simplify. Get food made by a caterer or sign up family volunteers as a condition of your hosting.

Don't forget to love yourself.

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Waiting is rarely an efficienit way to fix something. It's time to set some boundaries & tell them that if they want a close relationship with you, you need them to respect your different goals. Downplay the conflict & never rise to the temptation to bark -- it just gives them "proof" to judge you on. Try humor instead.

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Since 68% of Americans believe that Satan is real, I guess not yet.

There's a great deal of confusion with religious believers between what we want to be true & what we "feel" or wish to be true. My heart's led me astray in love too many times to trust it on God.

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Make a list of the pros & cons, and watch out for mysterious infinite "family obligations". To get out of such, get a friend & measure what's really appropriate and don't be guilted into more. People in your family, if they love you, should respect your needs too. Don't jump ship until you have a new job & don't stay if you can't survive financially.

- Find a friend who needs help but is too shy to ask. Offer.

- Be honest to a fault. With diplomacy you never need to tell a white lie or avoid someone's calls.

- Love yourself enough to say no to others when they're not good to you.

- Understand yourself & what really makes you happy.

- Always say YES to life's adventures!

Mozart lived to 35 and died of illness at a time when life was short.

You'll probably live to 100 given advances in technology, and trends in social & political freedoms & fewer wars & poverty & death worldwide are just getting better.

What kind of delusion are you in, questioning optimism? Even if we hit a depression it's still the best life ever, ever.

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Knowing when to cut your losses is the #1 most difficult thing in life. The only way to find out is to use your head, not your heart. Make a list of all the pros & cons and think clearly without illusions. Make a plan. Are you really trying hard enough or smart enough?

Keep a diary & track your progress & happiness 1-10. Is what you're trying working?

Is giving up going to make you happier?

Oh, but you can daydream & plan it all the time.

And you can bring in a friend or a contractor for the pieces you don't absolutely need to own.

And you can network and apply for grants or think smart about making some money so you can work 3 or 4 days on your art.

Simplify your life & use that energy on your passions!

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Hobby clubs are full of zealous people whose passion is infectious.

Join one or start one! The trick is believing that if you give it a week you'll be glad you did.

Just sitting waiting for inspiration won't work. Get out there & you'll soon feel more energetic. As for romance, go online or network through friends.

Try exercising, & smile more -- that's beauty!

There are so many luxuries to modern life: cars, TV, the Internet, healthcare... You can live like a 15th century King on so little money.

You have to follow your passion. It's what makes you you. It's why it matters that you & not somebody else is living your life. Think creatively!

There must be a way to earn a living.

Network & learn from the examples of others & don't give up! You can do it!

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Imagine a famous actor is doing a character study to portray you in a movie. How do you talk? Do you have common habits? How do you treat people? Make a big list and ask friends for help. Then make a list of who you want to be. It's OK to change your mind on this! Who inspires you & what hobbies or projects have you enjoyed? Meet people who were once like you & made various life choices. Ask questions!

Not until you know yourself & what really makes you happy & have the courage to say "no" to the wrong guys. Work on reducing the baggage in your life -- it builds confidence & that's attractive. Have 1 date a week & hang in there! It takes work but you can do it!

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Nope.

Look, love is a kind of "Go!" signal put out by your gut, which is not very bright and your heart can easily mislead you, especially if you are off-balance in life & don't have confidence in who you are & what really makes you happy. Use your head & say no to a love that already failed.

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Be a good listener & you'll hear them say things like "I've always wanted to" or "I really need to get..." and make a surprise & get them what they want.

Start talking about "caring" for them & see where it goes. Be strong & don't go faster than they want to. If they've dated you for 3 months they should have an answer.n

That's enough time to fall in love.

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A true friend calls you or emails just to say hi.

Is willing to listen & give you advice, even if it challenges you.

Supports & believes in you, and never causes drama by complaining or lashing out in frustration.

Doesn't take you for granted or get too "needy" or clingy. Only centered, happy, confident people can be truly good to you.

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Yes, because you're smart enough to look underneath your surface goals to find your deeper goals. What do you really need to be happy?

Find synergies so you can get what you want & don't forget to love yourself & get "me time". Don't give in to phony goals like "I must work full time to have a career" or "only I can babysit".

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It's like dieting, you gain confidence & assertiveness a little at a time. Back away from friend / family / work relationships that tear you down.

Experiment with saying "no" & don't gauge success on how you feel with your heart but with your head. A few times of saying "no" with good results and your heart will fear less.

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Someone who accepts you for who you are doesn't try to change you. Can resolve problems with a friendly tone of voice.

Tells their friends how great you are.

Someone passive-aggressive might hide their true feelings, but if you seek out confident people who are happy in life for friendship, they won't do that.

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Take a small card & write 10 things that make you happy. Carry that around in your wallet.

It will remind you when you're having a bad day that you're having a great life, and you have so much power to change it for the better.

Make some plans -- you will feel empowered & more hopeful.

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Try the polished bald look. Eat two peaches.

Your purpose in life is to disturb the Universe.

As for the mermaid: sing back.

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