Results tagged “confidence” from Wheel Questions

When you realize that your heart can mislead you.

Just like it's gotten you to eat a whole box of ice cream or love the wrong person, now it's convinced you you're incomplete & don't matter. Use your head to stifle unhealthy feelings. Get active & do some things that matter, like volunteering. Volunteer groups are full of cheery people. You'll be fine!!

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Make a list. Make a plan.

It will give you a reality check & make you feel on top of life.

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Back off or leave them entirely.

The more you avoid people who drain you, the more confidence you'll have. That will allow you to get more distance without unrealistic thoughts like you'll be alone forever.

Actually, you'll have more energy to seek out & be more attractive to other confident people, who make great lovers, friends, & family substitutes.

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You can't breathe without him?

Is that healthy? Being so dependent?

It's a beautiful & romantic idea that you're so passionate that it's bigger than life.

But it's ugly that you're letting your emotions control you, because if you're not stable enough that you could say "no", you're probably not stable enough to judge yes from no.

And that can lead you to "Oh no!"

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The #1 most attractive thing is confidence. You build it by not allowing your heart to make decisions your head should veto.

Don't hang out with people (even family, even if you're in love) who drain you, & make you feel like you're at fault or worthless.

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Start by making a list of the things about yourself that you like in your head. It's hard to resist that.

Then back away from anyone in life (friends, lovers, family, co-workers) who's taking you for granted or constantly cuts you down to size.

Then get active in doing the fun projects & chasing your dream that you deserve. A positive spiral will emerge.

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Yes! The keys to social anxiety are becoming confident and happy in your own life, and practice. Do you have people or responsibilities that are cutting down your sense of self?

Back away from those & get new ones.

Then climb down from the "high stakes" of impressing women romantically & join some hobby clubs where you can practice.

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It's normal to have doubts & to be afraid of failure. Write a list of successes & positive qualities about yourself on a card & carry it around. When you're afraid, ask yourself, what are the consequences I'm afraid of & make a plan both to avoid it but also if you do fail, to handle it. Having a plan makes fear of the unknown future smaller.

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It's a habit you can form one step at a time. Start by getting some distance & finding new friendships that will lead to new loves. Use your head to overrule your heart & tell yourself, "it's not me, they are just difficult people & I musn't feel an inappropriate obligation."

Fear is always fear of the unknown. But you can tackle the unknown by learning & making a plan.

Make a plan for what you would do if love failed & you'll see the world doesn't actually end. Push away the relationships & "obligations" that drain you & work on confidence. That will give you the strength to view love without alarmist anxiety.

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